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A Raw Slice of British Grassroots Politics

Tucked away on Sandy Park Road in Brislington, Bristol, The Sandringham Pub stands firm—a no-nonsense local, tired but proud amid the growing café culture around it. Downstairs, regulars exchange stories and catch up on the day’s events, while upstairs, political hopefuls ready themselves for a hustings meeting—an intimate, sometimes chaotic forum where candidates lay out their cases for election or re-election.

Arriving early into a near-empty room, the scene is instantly vivid: an abandoned Father Christmas costume slumps in a corner, a well-worn skittle alley runs along one side, and a Banksy print hangs silently behind. The occasional flushing of toilets, inconveniently placed near the skittle lane, forces the audience to awkwardly navigate behind the speakers—adding a quirky charm to the proceedings.

The organisers’ attempts to arrange the top table provide their own drama. Tables shuffle, six glasses of water repeatedly move back and forth, as they try different seating angles—only to concede that either the chair or a speaker will inevitably end up on the skittle alley itself.

The evening unfolds like a scene from an Armando Iannucci script, mixing pantomime and personalities with genuine grassroots politics. There are serious debates, passionate hecklers, entrenched political tribes, and the occasional bemused visitor who’s clearly taken a wrong turn on the way to bingo.

In an age dominated by spin, social media echo chambers, and soundbites, there’s something refreshingly raw and honest about these meetings. They bring people with clashing views face-to-face, encouraging listening, dialogue, and the stark realisation that shared concerns bind us more than anger divides us. Here, it’s clear: the journey matters as much as the destination.

Brexit, inevitably, looms large. Like a faltering stroke victim struggling to articulate, no other topic escapes its shadow. It’s simultaneously depressing and fascinating to watch, as each speaker’s eyes reveal a shared weariness. We’re all stuck in the same ditch, grasping for symbolic deadlines to “get Brexit done,” yet no one truly knows how to heal the fractures within families, neighborhoods, and communities.

Some politicians push for a knockout victory, but victory over whom? In life, total victory is neither practical nor desirable. The art of compromise may seem absent now—but it’s only a matter of time before she comes knocking. Let’s hope we have the wisdom to answer the door.

End Games

Realisation has a way of sneaking up on you—slow, almost imperceptible, yet wrapped tightly in the simplest form of common sense. For me, it came quietly toward the end of 2018, the moment I deliberately stepped back from social media groups, especially those sprawling Facebook communities. What began as hopeful spaces for open dialogue and genuine free speech among people with differing opinions had morphed into something far darker.

This past weekend, curiosity got the better of me, and I tentatively dipped my toes back into that digital ocean.

The calm I’d grown accustomed to over months evaporated instantly—like morning mist chased away by the harsh glare of the sun. Within hours, I was pulled into a whirlpool of toxic arguments, rife with intolerant attitudes and bitter resentments. One particular Facebook group felt less like a forum and more like a grim echo chamber—populated mostly by frustrated, angry voices, overwhelmingly white men, lobbing lazy, manufactured memes and personal attacks with the fury of children flinging custard pies. That’s where we’ve landed. Is this really the state of discourse in the UK?

We don’t talk anymore. Worse, we don’t listen. Instead, we shout louder, mock more viciously, and often seem determined to wound each other. Our nation feels splintered, like a fragile union trembling on the brink of collapse. Battles over identity rage at the extremes, while the silent majority looks away, burdened by shame and embarrassment. Meanwhile, the rest of the world watches in disbelief, trying to make sense of a once-proud country unraveling before their eyes.

And so, on that Saturday, I did something quietly radical. I switched off from the noise and digital chaos, stepped outside, and said hello to a complete stranger while walking my dog. Sometimes, that’s where true connection begins.

When the Person You Knew Becomes a Stranger

I want to share a recent experience that shines a small but revealing light on a troubling trend sweeping communities—not just here in the UK, but in the US and beyond. It’s about perception, personal accountability, and the double lives some people choose to live. It’s about how we engage and communicate as we shift between our real, everyday lives and the virtual world of social media, where the person you think you know can suddenly feel like a complete stranger.

Most importantly, it’s about how ignorance is preyed upon to deliberately fuel hate and toxicity—poison that has seeped deep into our culture and been weaponized by politicians. George Orwell’s classic 1984 introduced us to “doublespeak,” where words mean their opposite: when Big Brother says “Love,” he means hate; when he says “Peace,” he means war.

When my family and I left Salisbury after seven happy years and returned to Bristol, we left behind a circle of friends who enriched our lives and whom we still cherish. Our Salisbury neighbours, the vast majority, treated us with kindness and warmth. Among them was Peter—a handyman, a regular visitor, someone we trusted. Even our dog, Poppy, lit up at his voice. Peter was there when we needed him, or so we thought.

But once we settled in Bristol and reconnected with friends on Facebook, a harsh and unsettling truth emerged. Suddenly, hateful posts and images from extreme right-wing groups started appearing in my feed—posts far beyond shock-jock tastelessness and often linked to groups known for violence.

The source? Peter.

He posted ugly, offensive content. His obsession with reinstating the Golliwog doll as a symbol of “Britishness” was particularly disturbing. After my wife sent him a heartfelt message calling out his behaviour, he responded with nothing but a thumbs-up emoji—and carried on.

I decided to confront his hate head-on, not expecting to change his mind, but hoping to plant a seed of doubt in his followers and family who witnessed the online clash. It didn’t surprise me that hateful voices quickly retreat when challenged calmly, only to sneak back once they think no one is watching. That’s exactly what Peter did.

Recently, noticing his posts getting fewer likes, Peter launched attacks on my Facebook page. He’s a staunch supporter of Brexit, UKIP, and Trump-style politics—his bigotry clearly intertwined with his politics. Watching him stumble and flail as my friends challenged him online became one of my moments of the year.

Things escalated further after he tried to use Remembrance Sunday to score cheap political points. I simply asked him to show some respect for those who made the ultimate sacrifice. Not long after, he returned to his Golliwog fixation. When I challenged him again, he defended himself with the tired excuse of having non-white friends, then blocked me after I asked if he’d buy his friends’ children such a doll for Christmas.

Peter is a textbook case of Orwellian doublespeak. What he says and what he does are worlds apart. The toxic content he shares is fed to him by extremist groups he chooses to associate with—and in doing so, he becomes a reflection of them.

Why share this? First, I’m relieved Peter is no longer part of our lives. But more importantly, we live in dangerous times when decency and moderation seem out of fashion, and reactionary, nationalist, racist politics try to claim space. These voices are not the mainstream, and they never will be.

Those of us who know better must stand united, calmly resist, and push back the hate under the rocks it crawled out from. Have the courage to challenge those who mean harm, no matter who they are. And remember the wise words of Bill Hicks: “Love all the people all the time.”